Tuesday, 11 August 2009

Think like a Princess

I met with my teacher at the Kabbalah centre yesterday. We talked about what had been going on in my life - most specifically my current challenges on charging what I am worth. Despite the decisions I have made over the past few days, and the resulting plan of action, he said that, actually, I have changed nothing at all.

I am used to hearing this type of response from my teacher. I go through periods of making tons of effort and taking big steps only for it to be dismissed. And I used to be really offended by it and spend effort and energy during our meeting trying to get him to value what I thought I had achieved. And the more frustrated I got, the less he listened. But always there would be something he said which I needed to hear and now despite still desperately wanting to be 'right' (oh my lovely Leo Moon) I fight the temptation to talk and listen to what he has to say.

My teacher has an unnerving ability to detect my true level of change. I feel as though I am speaking with conviction, but there must be something in my voice which easily relays (to him) that I am trying to convince him as much as I am trying to convince myself. All the same, the advice that my teacher gives and the way in which he gives it is total gold dust. Or diamond dust. Or platinum dust. Or Light dust, shipped direct from the Creator.

He said "You may have taken all of this action over the past few days but nothing has changed. The only change can come from within. When you truly believe what you are worth, you will not even have to ask or justify, because people will just know. Your energy will simply deliver these things to you and they won't question it".

Now, I like the sound of that.

He continued "Every person on the planet is a spark of Light from the Creator. And logically, you know that - you can understand in theory how that could be true. But you don't get it. You don't feel it inside. You don't believe that this is true. Once you start to feel this and know it, you can start really moving forwards with your life and your purpose".

The parable he told was one of a Princess who was raised amongst the peasants and grew to believe that she was a peasant. It is only when she is older that the King finds his daughter and asks her to live at the palace. Logically, she knows that she is the Princess, but she does not feel like a Princess - she doesn't yet believe it. It is only when she truly believes and starts living with the consciousness of a Princess that the people take her seriously. Until then she is nothing but a jumped-up peasant trying to give orders.

Well, that's easy to understand.

Oh, and before anyone starts wondering why any Kabbalah teacher would be encouraging his students to behave like a Princess - the type of Princess that he has in mind is one who exists to serve her people and share, not sit on her throne barking orders and shouting 'Off with their heads!' And of course real Princesses also deserve a real Prince. (Aaahaa...NOW you're talking.....)

My teacher then suggested I keep a Princess diary. Or maybe that should be a Peasant's diary. If I know what it takes to be a Princess, then I need to make note of all of the things I do in a day which come from the peasant consciousness: what am I avoiding? when am I being lazy? what fear am I not confronting? When I got distracted by email for the umpteenth time or decided that now would be a really good time to clean the loo, what responsibility was I hiding from? (because we all know that Princesses do not clean toilets. Which would make me quite a good Princess, now I come to think about it...)

"So," my teacher continued "just find a book and write all of these things down as you go through the day"

Oh my. I'm not sure they make books that big.


  1. Hello missy :) Missed you, have been SO remiss in posting and visiting. And hey, you've got that horrid "no-reply-comment" thing on....gimme an email address to write to you at....

    As for your question about the pic on my post, It's actually what Indian women call a dupatta, or a think silk or cotton wrap that they wear over their outfits.....it's been drawn in a stylish way that, yes, DOES look like a snake :)))

  2. Oh and yes I'm reading your post now and will comment :)))

  3. I suppose there is a lot of sense in the idea that we have to believe in ourselves for others to believe in us (is this what you - and your teacher - are saying?) But is he suggesting that once the belief is there the process is automatic : I know what I am worth and therefore everyone else will know and will pay it? Is not this an argument for style (self-belief of value) over substance (actual value). That is not really a question, just me trying to figure it out in my own mind.

  4. You have to have authentic belief in your true value - anything else could be a number of negative traits (such as arrogance, or pride). And of course I am not saying that a supermarket checkout person should expect to get paid £100 an hour for sitting at a checkout simply because they believe it. But they won't get a promotion to a floor supervisors job if they don't believe that they are worth it either.
    Similarly, if you have an unrealistic belief that you are worth the top end of the scale as a Designer, for example, people may pay top rate for your services but once they have seen your work they probably won't hire you again or recommend you to any of their friends.
    So this may seem like real common sense and that there are no greater forces at work. But it is really strange when you start making the effort to overcome negative (Ego) behaviour and things start popping up out the blue...